HYPNOTHERAPY can help people move mental boundaries and accept changes.
Hypnotherapist Jenny Rayment had the ladies of Club 100 spellbound during her talk – the message that she conveyed was that we are born to thrive if we get unstuck.
Jenny became interested in hypnotherapy after a long illness, where she tried many different methods of alternative therapy and found that the only thing that really helped was hypnotherapy. She was fascinated with the subject and decided that she would like to help others using this marvellous tool.
Jenny’s talk centred around changing perceptions and allowing ourselves to explore the boundaries that hold us. We all live with boundaries and this is healthy, however, there are both positive and negative experience in our lives that shape our core beliefs and these core beliefs set our own personal boundaries for life.
As an example, Jenny explained that we are taught from young to respect authoritative figures such as our parents, the police etc. In a general sense this is good but we can carry restrictive beliefs into adulthood, such as superstitions, feelings of guilt, etc.
An example that Jenny gave was of the child who comes home from school proudly displaying his painting. His mommy compliments him on the beautiful duck he painted. Crestfallen, he explains that it is a truck. His mom laughs and tells him not to worry; nobody in the family has any artistic talent, so he should not feel bad that this truck looks like a duck. This child could carry this experience into adulthood believing that he cannot draw or paint.
Later on in life, perhaps at retirement where he has time on his hands, he might like to paint, but is hesitant to do so because he has no talent. In reality he doesn’t know that he has no talent, he just believes it because his mom said so. Hypnotherapy can unlock the potential if this person wished it so.
Jenny went on to explain that one cannot be hypnotised if you did not wish to be. Hypnotherapy will probe the subconscious and bring to the fore what is hidden, thus healing a long standing problem.
She explained that many people are nervous because they are afraid of losing control and that they will be made to look foolish. In reality, you are completely aware of what is happening during a hypnotherapy session, and if at any time you wish to bring yourself back to a conscious state, this is achieved by simply opening your eyes.
Some areas where hypnotherapy has been very useful are in situations where people cannot face up to change, such as retirement, empty-nest syndrome when all the children leave home, menopause, etc.
She went on to expand on menopause saying that this is a time of change, not hormonal change but a time where the person’s life has changed in some way, and they start exploring boundaries.
A woman who has happily cooked for her family for 20 years may suddenly decide that she doesn’t like cooking – the point being that she started cooking for her family out of necessity and because it was the expected norm.
Now, in later life, after years of cooking she realizes that she doesn’t actually like cooking but feels guilt at the thought and resentment that she has to continue cooking.
Her family will blame these feelings on menopause and pat her on the head reassuringly.
In reality her frustration will grow and can even turn into depression.
This is a prime example of where hypnotherapy can help this woman move the boundaries and accept the changes.